Dear Abby: My husband has become a social terrorist – can our marriage survive?

DEAR ABBY: While nan saying goes “no man is an island,” I request to differ, arsenic I americium joined to one. My hubby has small to nary patience pinch anyone, family included. He has ever been negative, and arsenic he grows older, it has grown 10 times worse. Over nan past 15 years, my hubby has alienated astir of his (our) friends to nan constituent wherever he nary longer has immoderate interaction pinch them. He virtually walks distant from them successful public.

While I cognize a batch of group are ace narcissistic today, I consciousness you person to put up pinch immoderate of today’s BS. I’m not ace societal myself, but his rudeness has gotten retired of hand. Our societal life is nil. It whitethorn beryllium a lawsuit of slump (he’s connected a multitude of medications). It’s wearing maine down, and I’m acrophobic I’m sinking down pinch him. Is location a solution? — GOING DOWN, TOO

DEAR GOING: Because your hubby has intelligence wellness issues, this should beryllium discussed pinch a doctor. A different medicine and talk therapy mightiness thief him if he would consent to it. Please see consulting personification for yourself to thief you determine if you want to walk nan remainder of your life being this isolated. Nothing will alteration if you don’t go proactive.

DEAR ABBY: I person been making love a man for 2 1/2 years. He’s divorced; I americium a widow. We get on good and bask galore activities together. The problem is his 31-year-old daughter. She is very rude and unkind to me. He tells maine it is not me; she would dainty immoderate female companion of his this way.

With nan holidays approaching, I said to him astir what our plans will be. During nan past 2 years, his ex-wife and girl person controlled astir of nan get-togethers, saying that I was not invited to subordinate them for a Christmas Eve dinner. I don’t want to beryllium controlling for illustration his ex and daughter, but I would for illustration america to beryllium portion of nan plans arsenic a couple.

At this point, he’s incapable to determine what we will do. He’s trying to mend nan narration pinch his daughter, but I’m beautiful judge it won’t amended until she’s fresh to judge her dada having different partner successful his life.

I want this narration to activity out. We are talking astir surviving together and perchance getting married, but I’m not judge if we should see this until his business pinch his girl improves. Any advice? — SEEKING INCLUSION IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR SEEKING: Your man friend’s girl should not person been allowed to dainty immoderate female he was seeing disrespectfully. His correction has been ceding his powerfulness to personification who is emotionally immature and unwilling to spot her begetter successful a happy, patient relationship.

Give him a deadline to determine really he is going to walk nan holidays. If it isn’t pinch you, return a picnic astatine that time. You are intelligent to put nan brakes connected surviving together until he resolves this issue, preferably pinch input from a licensed intelligence wellness professional.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.