Dear Abby: My husband wants my money

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been joined for 19 years to my 2nd husband, “Jack.” Our children are grown. When we met, I was a business owner, and he was retired. He has had galore aesculapian issues and procedures, and I person ever insured him connected my wellness plans and been his advocate. We person ever had abstracted slope accounts and a family relationship we arsenic lend to. Jack has galore CDs and costs that he manages. We do not commingle those funds. I person ne'er asked for money from him and person ever contributed to immoderate of nan family needs.

I still activity afloat clip and precocious began receiving my Social Security, which I’m banking for my status arsenic I don’t expect receiving immoderate of Jack’s money. Maybe I will, but I request to beryllium proactive connected my ain behalf.

Jack is now seeing my accrued income and wants maine to lend a larger information of my net to nan family account. I don’t deliberation his anticipation is adjacent aliases warranted. I do astir of nan family and gait chores since he has go constricted successful his expertise and strength. Please advise. — WORKING GAL IN WASHINGTON

DEAR WORKING GAL: The measurement you person described it, your matrimony seems much for illustration a business narration than a partnership. If you are included successful your husband’s property plans, you should cognize what they are. Because you don’t cognize immoderate details, and you whitethorn request those costs later, you should talk this pinch your financial advisor earlier putting immoderate of your status money into nan family account.

DEAR ABBY: My niece precocious received her doctorate, and I person been invited to a celebration. A mini bakery will beryllium catering nan meal. I person celiac disease, which intends I person dietary restrictions (no wheat) that my family is alert of because different niece besides has celiac. The bakery is mini and is located successful a mini agrarian community. I tried looking up their paper online without success.

How do I grip this? I inquired and was told they will person a baked murphy connected nan menu. Should I bring my ain nutrient to nan celebration? Should I not be aliases be and person only nan baked potato? I for illustration baked potatoes, but I would astir apt request much to eat than that. Should I bring up my dietary restrictions anterior to nan ceremony aliases thrust nan four-hour information travel successful silence? — RESTRICTED IN OHIO

DEAR RESTRICTED: It says successful nan Bible, “Seek and ye shall find.” Because nan bakery doesn’t person an online beingness doesn’t mean it doesn’t person a telephone. Use it, show them astir your dietary needs and inquire if you tin beryllium accommodated beyond a baked potato. You whitethorn beryllium pleasantly surprised, particularly since you aren’t nan only comparative who has dietary restrictions. However, if nan reply is no, bring thing on you tin eat and devour it adjacent nan extremity of your four-hour thrust alternatively than suffer successful silence.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.