No hanky panky happening here.
A 31-year-old man went connected a reality TV show astir virgins — and he’s proud of it.
Ben Harris precocious wrote astir his life arsenic a virgin and really it landed him connected a TV show successful a Times communicative — thing that galore mightiness beryllium excessively ashamed to admit to anyone, fto unsocial nan full world.
Harris was urged by his friend to respond to a casting telephone for a “sex therapy” UK TV show called “Virgin Island.” Apprehensive astatine first, he yet did, and overmuch to his astonishment — he sewage cast.
The 31-year-old described himself arsenic an introvert and shared really he was bullied astir of his life. “It was ne'er arsenic terrible arsenic immoderate group experience, but it often centred connected my looks.”
Being an insecure teen, Harris assumed girls his property didn’t find him charismatic aliases moreover dateable.
“Despite my decent intellect, I [thought I] was physically repulsive to women, especially, and that nary sane woman could perchance find maine attractive,” he wrote.
By nan clip Harris was successful his 20s, he did yet date, “but I person ever felt arsenic if I’m playing catch-up, swimming hopelessly against a tide of formative teenage experiences I ne'er had.”
Despite having been connected almost 40 dates, Harris said nan farthest he physically went pinch a female was a peck connected nan cheek.
When he yet had nan opportunity to do immoderate hanky panky pinch personification he was making love — his fearfulness and inexperience sewage nan champion of him.
“I level retired turned down nan opportunity to person activity pinch her connected aggregate occasions retired of fear, though ironically we did virtually slumber together successful nan aforesaid furniture respective times.”
Harris said successful his communicative that applying for nan show felt for illustration nan drastic push that he needed — and it didn’t wounded that it was filming connected a beautiful Mediterranean island. What did he person to lose?
“If thing else, I’d get to acquisition some therapy,” Harris candidly wrote.
The show — which was filmed past twelvemonth — besides allowed Harris to meet 11 different group pinch a akin communicative to his — galore of whom he is still friends with.
“If this show helps to clear moreover a fraction of nan stigma associated pinch being an big virgin, it will person each been worthy it,” he wrote.
“Even if it doesn’t, I cognize I sewage a batch retired of it and I don’t regret taking portion astatine all.”
Harris is not nan only virgin — particularly successful his property group — to openly talk astir his deficiency of activity life.
A 39-year-old female named Sarah admitted connected TikTok why she doesn’t person immoderate intentions of rolling astir successful nan hay anytime soon.
“There are guys I deliberation are good-looking, don’t get maine wrong,” nan contented creator said. “But being into somebody, that hasn’t been nan lawsuit since my precocious 20s aliases early 30s.”
Sarah said she’s astatine bid pinch nan truth that she’s a virgin who has ne'er been kissed.
“I don’t want to disturb my soul bid because it’s taken truthful agelong to get here,” she admitted.