Man Brings Friend to Tears When He Tells Her a Tattoo for an Old Boyfriend Is a ‘Deal Breaker’ for Potential Partners

A man is seeking proposal aft making a friend outcry astir her tattoo for her erstwhile boyfriend.

In a station connected Reddit, nan personification revealed that his friend of 4 years, Ula, had a tattoo connected her collar bony that read, “Forever Brian's.”

“She sewage it erstwhile she was rather young (early 20's) astir 15yrs agone erstwhile she was engaged to her first emotion who unluckily passed distant owed to cancer, is my understanding,” nan station read. “I don't cognize nan history beyond that it happened rather quickly and she sewage nan tattoo aft he passed away.”

The man went connected to opportunity that for nan past 4 years his friend has been making love “and nan tattoo has consistently been a sticking constituent for nan 3-4 aliases truthful guys that I've seen her with.” 

“Each 1 has said it otherwise but they've each said that they'd for illustration her to get it removed aliases that it makes them uncomfortable capable to time off nan narration erstwhile it sewage serious,” he continued. 

The Reddit personification recalled that his woman and Ula were having a speech earlier asking for his sentiment connected nan topic.

“I warned them, repeatedly, that if they inquire maine for a "guys opinion" that I would supply 1 but it mightiness beryllium hurtful,” he wrote.

“So, I asked nan ladies if they remembered nan movie Titanic? They some agreed. I asked them if they remembered what nan halfway taxable of nan movie was,” he said of nan 1997 movie. “They some answered that it was a emotion communicative betwixt Jack and Rose.”

He continued, "So I told Ula, ‘Do you cognize who it wasn't a emotion communicative for? Rose's husband. Rose's hubby joined her, had children pinch her. Stayed joined to her for astir 60 years and grew aged together, overcame adversity and successfully had a agelong life together.’”

“‘But Rose didn't deliberation of her hubby aliases those memories together erstwhile she died 60 years later,’” nan man explained. “‘She thought of Jack. All of that surviving that Rose and her hubby did together meant small because successful nan extremity erstwhile she passed complete she went to her first love, Jack.’”

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The writer told his friend that nan tattoo was “written confirmation” that her early partner was not her “forever person.”

“Which is good erstwhile you're casually making love but what you're indirectly asking for erstwhile things commencement to get superior is if they're consenting to motion up to beryllium your Rose's husband,” he continued. 

“I agreed that Brian had passed distant complete a decade ago. I agreed it wasn't fair,” he added. “I agreed that they were stupidly competing pinch a dormant person. I agreed that removing it won't alteration really she felt astir Brian.”

The friend said, “I wasn't trying to commencement a immense statement but that's fundamentally what happened truthful I tried a different attack and told her ‘Look, not trying to commencement s--- but everyone wants to find their everlastingly person, what your doing is fundamentally telling these guys you've already recovered yours and that's not changing truthful they support it casual for arsenic agelong arsenic they tin erstwhile you effort to get superior they time off to protect themselves because nary 1 wants to beryllium a placeholder and it doesn't thief really aggressively you take sides it.’”

Recalling that Ula yet passed retired connected nan couch, nan man said he should have had nan chat “while sober."

“So, was I excessively harsh? Was I an a------? Even nan adjacent greeting she was slow crying and committing to removing it, which I told her to talk it retired pinch much than conscionable friends and possibly activity retired a master sentiment earlier removing it but I judge felt for illustration a royal a------,” he said. “It really felt for illustration location was nary winning here. Just a batch of wounded feelings and distant tragedy.”

In nan comments section, galore readers appeared to work together pinch nan writer connected his stance.

“Him being dormant makes it moreover much of a woody breaker. Nobody wants to effort and compete pinch nan dormant emotion of her life. You were spot connected comparing this to Titanic,” 1 personification wrote.

A 2nd added, “You laid it retired perfectly. You didn’t judge aliases accuse, you simply pointed what she doesn’t want to accept: that her feelings astir nan tattoo don’t align pinch immoderate of her imaginable partners feelings connected nan tattoo.”

However, different suggested she could day personification pinch nan aforesaid name.

“She could ever conscionable day guys named Brian?,” nan personification wrote, to which a 4th replied, “My grandma really joined 2 different guys pinch nan aforesaid name. It’s doable lol.”