Man Refuses to Go Trick-or-Treating with 20-Year-Old Girlfriend, Says It Would Be 'Humiliating'

Halloween is meant to beryllium fun, but 1 Reddit personification recovered himself emotion unsure astir wherever nan statement betwixt playful and awkward mightiness be.

In his post, nan 25-year-old man explained that his girlfriend, 20, wanted to spell trick-or-treating astatine nan past minute, but he wasn’t precisely connected board.

“It's past 2nd and neither of america really person immoderate elaborate costumes aliases anything, astir apt conscionable going to do immoderate constitution and decorate cardboard props,” he wrote successful a post.

Still, nan simplicity wasn’t what bothered him. It was nan image of himself, a “big dude,” knocking connected doors without immoderate children successful tow.

“Personally not ace comfortable pinch nan thought because while she’s beautiful mini and is tiny capable to get a pass, I’m a large dude and nan thought of personification opening their doorway to maine and nary children conscionable sounds humiliating,” he admitted.

His words struck a chord pinch readers who understood nan awkwardness of trying to bask thing nosy while worrying astir really it looks to others.

“Trick aliases treating astatine houses is for children. Obviously its nosy to dress up and return your kids (or family aliases adjacent friends) BUT having a 20yo beryllium nan REASON you are going location to location for free candy is immature and it cheapens nan arena for nan kids,” 1 scholar commented.

“Want to spell to a nosy Halloween Party for adults and location will beryllium candy.... GREAT. But time off nan kids to beryllium kids,” they added. “Your GF sounds VERY immature to beryllium pushing this WITHOUT a kid of value successful tow."

Not wanting to beryllium a “buzzkill,” nan original poster moreover tried suggesting different ways to observe pinch his girlfriend, which included attending a celebrated big Halloween event. “But she is adamant connected trick-or-treating specifically,” he revealed.

Though he emphasized that “she’s not forcing maine aliases anything,” he couldn’t shingle nan emotion of guilt. “I surely consciousness blameworthy for saying nary but I don’t deliberation I’d bask going on pinch it either.”

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Living successful New York City added different furniture to his hesitation. “I americium successful NYC and location is simply a adjacent magnitude of Halloween crime that goes connected present truthful I return nary individual discourtesy to group being concerned astir maine astatine first glance.” For him, it wasn’t conscionable astir embarrassment — it was besides astir information and societal perception.

One mother successful nan comments thanked nan original poster for “thinking astir nan group connected nan different broadside of nan door.”

“As a lone mom pinch sleeping kids upstairs I erstwhile opened nan doorway to 3 six ft and complete dudes successful trench coats and latex fright masks,” she recalled. “It was very unnerving. I deliberation astatine a definite property it's clip to time off disconnected instrumentality aliases treating for much property due Halloween fun.”