Man Says His Mom Is Upset Because He Called His Girlfriend ‘the Most Important Person’ in His Life

A 30-year-old man is refusing to apologize to his mom aft she became upset erstwhile he revealed plans to propose to his girlfriend.

In a station connected Reddit’s AITAH forum, nan man explained that he and his girlfriend, 27, person been making love for astir 5 years and were friends prior. The narration pinch his mom has ever been “very close,” but he said sometimes she shares things that consciousness “inappropriate” and fails to perceive erstwhile he wants to talk astir his ain struggles. 

“Despite that, my mom is simply a awesome personification and I person ever tried to show my appreciation and gratitude towards her,” nan man said. “My mom has ever loved my gf [girlfriend]. She says really smart, kind, funny, and cleanable for maine she is." 

He added, "My gf is incredibly benignant to my mother arsenic good and listens to her successful nan measurement I do and helps her a lot.”

The man said his woman and mom person moreover attended events together. Everything seemed “awesome” until he precocious shared plans pinch his parents to propose earlier nan extremity of nan year. 

“I was talking to them and I said something, ‘She is nan astir important personification successful my life’ to my parents,” nan man said. “My dada was happy and supportive, but my mom turned sour."

He explained that “she started making ‘jokes’ instantly like, ‘She's nan astir important personification successful your life? What astir nan personification who birthed you?’ I benignant of tried to laughter it disconnected and opportunity that of people my parents were important excessively not reasoning excessively deeply.”

The man described his mom arsenic becoming “clingy” since nan chat and said she has been making “snide comments” erstwhile he doesn’t reply her calls immediately. He said her behaviour has been truthful “strange” that he decided to springiness her space.

“My dada called maine aft activity informing maine that my mom was successful tears coming because I person been ignoring her and he told maine nan ‘most important personification successful nan world’ remark really sewage to her,” nan man said. “I told him it really should not beryllium that heavy and I was conscionable expressing emotion for my gf."

“He asked if I could apologize and I honestly don't want to,” he added. “I don't consciousness for illustration I did thing incorrect but my dada and mom are now treating maine for illustration nan biggest a----- ever.”

Responses to nan station attempted to reassure nan man that he was making nan correct determination and based on his dada should face his mom astir her behavior.

“Your mother is very manipulative. I dream you ever broadside pinch your woman complete your mom erstwhile you get married,” 1 personification commented. “Because what you are experiencing now is conscionable a warmup for your mom's main event, particularly erstwhile you person kids.”

"NTA [not nan a------] group boundaries and instrumentality to them,” different said. “She's being bully to your gf to person much power complete your relationship. She's going to beryllium a nightmare erstwhile you 2 scheme a wedding.”

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“Your dada needs to show your mom to GROW THE F UP and extremity acting for illustration a child, not coddling her and trying to make you apologize to her,” a 3rd chimed in. “You request to make it crystal clear that erstwhile you do get married, your woman will beryllium nan astir important personification successful your world, because that is nan measurement it is expected to be.

“I americium going to show you thing that I was told successful my pre-marital counseling 30+ years ago: You don't beryllium your mother thing for BIRTHING you,” nan aforesaid personification added. “That's a prime SHE made. You besides don't beryllium her for raising you. That was virtually her job.”