New Mom Furious After Husband Says He's 'Helping' By Doing Standard Parenting Tasks

A caller mom says her hubby often neglects parenting duties and, erstwhile he does do things for illustration provender nan baby, he lets her cognize he's "just trying to help" her.

In a station shared to Reddit, she writes, "Apparently my hubby is 'helping me' raise our kids. And this full clip I thought we were adjacent partners. Joke's connected me."

"Long communicative short, I person done each but 5 aftermath ups since my 5 period aged was born," she continues. "My hubby and I some activity — I activity 5 days and he useful 3.5."

One caller night, she writes, she was "exhausted," and asked her hubby if he would thief out.

"I went to my hubby astatine 10 p.m. and said, 'Hey, it would person been bully if you offered to return nan babe coming since you’re not moving tomorrow and I americium truthful tired I deliberation I’m going to die. And also, you’re staying up pinch nan babe tonight,'" she writes. "He claims he was conscionable connected nan measurement to inquire maine if I wanted him up pinch nan babe anyway. (I would stake my life that wasn’t nan case.) Whatever. There are 2 bottles successful nan fridge, person fun."

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However, that night, he woke her up astatine 4 a.m. "with a crying baby" because nan small 1 was quiet again. While he had fed nan babe a vessel astir 1 a.m., he was unsure what to do since she needed much food.

"What astir her 2nd bottle?" nan mom asked. "He forgot. If I had died successful my slumber my last words would’ve been, 'There are 2 bottles already made successful nan fridge.' Not to mention he could’ve, IDK, utilized his legs to locomotion to nan freezer and get more."

Now, she writes, "he’s huffy that I’m mad," and says he was “just trying to thief me.”

"Hell no. Help me? Help me?!???? I’m done," she writes. "I’ll thief his sorry aforesaid pinch immoderate he explicitly lays retired for maine (and possibly conveniently hide a fewer things present aliases there). But I’m not holding his manus and azygous handily keeping this family going by myself anymore. Forget it."

Other Reddit users are weighing in, pinch galore commiserating.

"Ugh joined azygous moms are everywhere. Sounds for illustration you request to fto him descend aliases swim," 1 personification wrote. "And he shouldn’t inquire you if you want him to do it 1 night. He should conscionable opportunity he’s doing it and then, do nan full thing. Instead of this full dance, why don’t you conscionable make a schedule? These are your nights, these are mine. Do not aftermath maine up nether immoderate circumstances. Godspeed."

Another added, "I utilized to person to punctual my ex that he wasn’t bathing nan kids aliases doing nan dishes for me. Those are his kids excessively and he besides ate disconnected those dishes. Doing things for maine would beryllium washing my car aliases filling up my tank. We are divorced. I don’t deliberation he ever sewage it."