Woman Considers Kicking Live-in Best Friend Out After She Makes Hurtful Comment During Trivial Fight: 'That Stung'

A Reddit personification is looking for proposal aft an innocuous remark led to tensions pinch her champion friend, making her reconsider their existent surviving arrangement.

"She’s been staying astatine my location pinch my family for nan past month—this isn’t nan first clip she’s stayed long-term," nan poster began. "We dainty her for illustration family, and I’ve ever said I position my adjacent friends arsenic chosen family."

The conflict came erstwhile nan Redditor and her friend went connected a travel to Miami. The poster borrowed her friend's sneakers alternatively of packing her own, and though she'd intended to deterioration them connected nan travel home, nan friend wanted to deterioration nan sneakers instead.

"Which is wholly fine, duh, they’re hers," they explain. "She offered maine different pair, but I didn’t want to deterioration those. I noticed different brace extracurricular her suitcase and asked if I could deterioration them. She danced astir nan question, hit astir nan bush, I past said 'you don’t want maine to deterioration these right?' She said no. I responded, 'Just opportunity that then.' "

Though nan poster admits her reside was "frustrated" and "irritated," she notes that she did not outcry aliases raise her voice.

"Later, we talked astir it and she told maine my remark felt for illustration 'fighting words.' Literal beingness fighting," she writes. "I explained I wasn’t trying to beryllium hostile—I was tired and frustrated, and I apologized. It wasn’t that heavy TO ME."

"Then she said thing that really wounded me: 'I talk to my sisters for illustration that, but we’re conscionable friends, not family, truthful that’s not acceptable betwixt us.' That stung," she continues. "She’s been sleeping successful my bed, helping navigator for my family, sharing life pinch america for weeks."

The Reddit personification felt betrayed by nan comment, noting that she sees nan friend "as family, moreover if we're not blood," to which nan friend tried to backtrack, saying, "Don't get it twisted, you are family—but friends shouldn't talk for illustration that."

"Still, nan harm was done. I consciousness for illustration I crossed a statement once, but she dismissed nan full instauration of our bond," nan poster writes.

When nan Reddit personification asked nan friend to return immoderate accountability for her ain attitude, she past tried to alteration nan taxable alternatively of moving things out.

"Then, mid-convo, she goes, 'Me and [our different friend] are going to North Carolina this play if you want to come—it’s an unfastened invitation I guess.' The measurement she said it felt weird. After everything, that 'I guess' rubbed maine nan incorrect way," nan poster writes.

The Redditor clarified that "she's not a bad friend," but noted that nan business "really hurt."

"I opened my location and heart, and aft 1 miscommunication, I’m being told we’re 'not family'? I’m considering not letting her enactment pinch maine again, conscionable to protect my peace," she writes.