Woman Gets the ‘Ick’ from Rent-Free Boyfriend Who Refuses to Split Grocery Costs Fairly

A mates successful their 30s is astatine likelihood complete really to reasonably disagreement their surviving expenses.

The female explains on Reddit that her fellow is moving into her apartment, which she owns, truthful he won't person to salary rent. Instead, he agreed to screen nan building maintenance, utilities specified arsenic Wifi and energy and nan yearly spot taxes, which are astir $500 per year.

The female told him that she would screen nan costs of each "cat-related expenses," since she has 3 cats while her fellow only has one.

Once they sewage to nan speech astir groceries, that's erstwhile things "started spiraling."

"I told him I thought it made consciousness for it to beryllium a 70/30 split—he pays more. He asked, 'Who's nan 70?' I said, You.' He was like, 'Why not 50/50?' I said, 'Because you eat 3 times much than I do,'" she recalls.

"He didn't emotion that reply and started pulling nan 'partnerships should beryllium 50/50' card. I told him 60/40 was nan lowest I'd go," she adds.

While they initially dropped it, nan man "started making snarky comments like: 'Honestly, I only eat meal present anyway... do youre only going to beryllium paying for feline stuff?' "

His behaviour gave her nan "ick."

"You're surviving present RENT-FREE, successful a clean, comfy, fully-furnished location I support myself. I'm present astir of nan time, truthful nan abstraction is ever stocked, cleaned, cozy, and I'm offering each of that to you pinch love," nan female explains. 

She past went connected to opportunity that she likes "a man who provides," aliases "at slightest contributes much erstwhile he's stepping into my space."

While he makes "a spot more" money than nan poster, she noted that it's not a "huge gap," truthful she doesn't "expect full-provider status."

"Now I can't extremity wondering if I'm signing up to unrecorded pinch a roommate aliases a boyfriend. The vibe has shifted. And I benignant of dislike that it did," she ended, asking Reddit if she is successful nan wrong.

People successful nan comments of nan station told nan female she was being much than adjacent pinch her expectations, pinch galore agreeing that nan man could lend more.

"Better mobility is, why is she letting him move successful without paying his stock connected everything? Including rent," 1 personification commented. 

"If nan statement is for fairness, past afloat fairness should use crossed nan board. You can't push for a 50/50 market divided while ignoring nan monolithic financial use of surviving rent-free. True equity intends accounting for nan full picture, not conscionable nan convenient parts," different personification added.